I believe that in intimate relationships (not limited to romantic relationships), we give each other passports to our internal landscapes. Each of our landscapes are as unique as the histories that shape us. We can forget each of us are governed by different weather patterns and can look to blame, punish and try to prove we are “right”.

Like individuals, couples have developmental stages too. I help couples grow from the first phase (looking to “win”) where couples are still operating as two one-person systems with insecure functioning; and move to the second phase of development where couples have greater self-awareness, operating as a “two-person system” with secure functioning and have learned more about the internal landscapes that govern the system, in order to welcome the mystery, the unbidden.

I am influenced by Sue Johnson (Emotionally Focussed Therapy), Stan Tatkin (a psychobiological approach) and Ester Perel (narrative therapy).

I am a PACT (level 1) therapist - trained by Stan Tatkin on the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy.